Earlier this week I told the kids they could either play outside or do their school work. They made the obvious choice (the choice I kind of wanted them to make to get some fresh air before the rain started), and now they just don’t want to come inside at all.
They’ve been distracted all week. Reading lessons have been difficult, TONS of redirecting needing to happen, “Okay, I know, but let’s just finish this worksheet!” They hear us discussing things that are happening. They hear us making plans, they are heartbroken at the cancelation of our first big family vacation, even though they understand… they don’t understand.
A lot of parents just finished their first week of homeschooling for the first time. And they are seeing quickly that it’s hard to get the kids to sit down, hard to get them to pay attention, and they are seeing these ideas that tell them to make their home schedule look just like their school’s daily schedule.
I’m begging you not to do that to yourselves. This is home. It’s not ‘school.’ By all means, if your school sent home ideas, resources, and work, do that work and utilize those resources to the best of your ability. But please, try not to force it. These are not everyday circumstances and your kids are aware that something is wrong. no matter your opinion of what exactly is wrong, or even what will happen- your young people don’t fully get it all.
What I’m trying to say is- take it a little easy, teach them- or use resources to help you teach them- but let them play, let them rest, let them ask questions. Don’t try to be perfect, don’t beat yourselves up. You’re all adjusting to a LOT.
Even us homeschoolers are just taking it a day at a time right now. Even the homeschoolers are feeling restless, we’re also feeling cooped up, we’re also unsure. Nothing about these past weeks is normal for any of us. Give yourselves grace and release your expectations, and mostly just concentrate on being their parents first and their teachers second.
So try to do the work, find some fun youtube videos from trusted channels that will have songs and be interesting. Maybe find programing that’s more on the educational side and watch it. Read those books that have been sitting on the shelves untouched for some time, spend this time as a family unit, in it together. The learning WILL still happen, trust me, it’s all around them. So don’t worry about turning your home into a battleground fighting an uphill battle with a math book. We’re fighting some much bigger battles outside of the home, there’s no need to carry that negativity inside the home too.
Feel free to reach out and ask questions, watch homeschoolers on youtube, don’t worry about fully embracing what we do, but use the information to help you calm down and remember what really matters in teaching your kids. Adapt to a schedule that will work for you, but it doesn’t have to be too strict.
Just breathe, it’ll be okay.
We’re all in this together,